Current emotional grief

[pauken25]

I recently discovered the emotional clearing process and fell that I've finally found what I was looking for. I stumbled upon some YouTube meditations that were very effective and brought up lots of emotion. The question that I have is that since I am now dealing with a very painful breakup that I did not initiate, the only emotion that I can access is the current pain and rejection, which is extremely intense, since my wife was triggered by something and abruptly devalued me and wants no contact.
Since the process deals with suppressed emotions, I'm wondering how to practice, since my emotions are not suppressed.
Once I enter the alpha state, the only emotion that rises to the surface is the pain of the rejection. I'm assuming that this pain is so intense, because besides the obvious current situation, I must have a suppressed rejection and inadequacy emotions. Is this projection, or just the pain of my current situation?
Any advice?

[John Ruskan]

If there are intense feelings, we can usually assume that suppressed material is being stirred up by circumstances or has even contributed to attracting those circumstances, which we call projection. The important thing at this point is to acknowledge that you are in contact with core feelings – the rejection in the heart center. You take the feelings that you are aware of through the steps of the EC Process, as described in the Deep Clearing book. As you work with them, other feelings and past circumstances may come into view if necessary. An intense experience such as you are describing indicates a predisposition towards excessive emotional attachment and dependency. Processing the feelings that are coming up now is the opportunity to clear that condition.

[pauken25]

Thank you for taking the time to respond. That makes perfect sense, as I gave up all agency in order to not rock the boat and was walking on eggshells for years. I'm working my way through the book and practicing ECP every day.