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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT - NEW EMOTIONAL CLEARING PODCAST!

« on: April 14, 2022 »

Dear Friends,

I'm pleased to announce that I have begun a Podcast series for the Emotional Clearing Process. If you are not familiar with podcasts, they are an audio-only show that can be played on a mobile device as well as on a computer. The advantage is that shows can be listened to while driving or walking, and perhaps even offer a different and more soulful communication mode than a video.

I will be posting a new show each Friday. There are 3 shows already posted. Each show is from 20 to 30 minutes long. Each week I will be discussing a different aspect of EC work, drawing from past talks and interviews I have given, workshops, Q&A sessions, counseling sessions, and new material that I will be recording. I will also be including some right-brain, artistic presentations such as excerpts from my Moon Walking book combined with music. At the moment, I am not planning on interviewing guests.

I believe the mix of styles and formats will attract and maintain your attention if you have an interest in EC work. I hope you will give it a try. The next show coming up (#4) is an interesting Q&A session.

And, as with the DEEP CLEARING release last year, I would like to humbly remind you that in the modern world, ratings and reviews are what make or break any new release. If you are on a Podcast app, it only takes a few seconds to give the show a 5-star rating, or if you are an enthusiastic supporter of EC work, you can write a quick review of just a few words which carries more weight - you don't have to spend a lot of time composing an elaborate review unless you want to.

Here are details about getting set up:

The Podcast is now available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts, but I would like to concentrate on Apple since it is the biggest and a healthy audience there will make a ripple in the Podcast universe.

To listen to Apple Podcasts, you need to have the app. On Apple gear, this is usually already included. Open the app and search for "the Emotional Clearing Process". This will take you right to the program.

After you get to the program page, be sure to clik the +subscribe button in the upper right.

If you don't already have the Apple Podcast app, you will have to download it. You can search for "download Apple Podcast app."

If you want to listen on a computer, you can get the app by going to:

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/apple-podcasts/id525463029

and then choose "allow the page to open podcasts."

I hope you are all well and that the advanced knowledge we are sharing will help get you through these difficult times. I hope this Podcast, my latest effort, will prove to be beneficial to everyone.

My warmest regards to all-

John

https://www.emclear.com

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Tonglen

« on: April 10, 2022 »

I'm not familiar enough with the Tonglen practice to be able to comment on it, but after you understand the principles of EC work, you can of course combine it with any other healing or spiritual practice that appeals to you. The sentences you mention are interesting in that they seem to offer an ancient confirmation of the EC method.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: emotions around being disrespected

« on: April 10, 2022 »

The EC Process is both simple and complex to grasp. If you spend some time with the EC books, you should be able to comprehend the logic of the steps, but to apply it to yourself is another story, and takes courage, intelligence, and maturity. You seem to be doing quite well with this, but you are still in the beginning stages of self-work. What you are describing is actually a text-book experience of becoming aware of yourself and your projections, reigning in the knee-jerk blameful responses, and replacing that with a more enlightened approach.

You’re working with the Significance center. We assume there is substantial negativity accumulated there, which takes the form of feelings of inferiority. This gets projected, as described in the books, and then you fight the projection. Becoming aware of this syndrome is the first step to psychological self-awareness. How to transcend it is what the books are all about.

The anger is a first-level emotion. You can work with it in your meditation and eventually it calms down, but it doesn't happen overnight. Ceasing to outwardly express the anger and working with it inwardly is a major challenge but it can be done. You might add some physical activity to channel the anger into if you feel it might be helpful, but that's not imperative. Is there a middle ground for justified outward expression of the anger? I don't think so, giving way to the anger is always a form of self-rejection, but on the other hand, you have to be moderate with yourself and not expect to be able to maintain perfect self-control immediately.

After the first-level emotion of anger comes the core feeling of not being good enough, being inadequate, feeling disrespected. This is where the critical work must be done. I have tried to describe the work in detail in the books. You can work with both these feelings in your meditation. Visualize a scene, let the anger come up, process that, and then go to the core feelings behind it. Keep shifting between them as needed.

You're going in the right direction, as you realize. You just need to stay with it and have confidence that it will result in a major life inner healing.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Connection

« on: March 08, 2022 »

What I hear you saying is that you've grown into an elevated state of awareness and openness over the last few years as a result of doing EC work, but that some remaining suppressed trauma still projects itself onto your experience, being primarily triggered by your relationship with your son. When the suppressed trauma is activated, it can also interfere with your relationships with men today. The trauma being triggered prevents you from connecting to your son, bringing up feelings from your childhood where you had a similar experience of being raised by a single parent, and were at times were unable to connect to that parent, feeling lonely and shamed. The trauma being triggered presents itself as a black cloud, and you can feel it physically in your body. At times the suppressed, reactivated trauma seems to subside, and you are able to connect to your son again.

You have a good understanding of the dynamics. All that needs to be done now is to settle back into the work. Recognize that you are being triggered by your son's needs, and then sit with the feelings and apply the EC steps to them. You can work with the body feelings as well as the emotional feelings of shame and loneliness. You can evoke the black cloud and let it trigger the suppressed feelings. Don't be afraid of these negative manifestations, just use them as opportunities to get to the suppressed feelings that need to be released by taking them through the EC process. You're doing good work. As I describe in FEEL 3 in the Deep Clearing book, a regular meditation/breathwork practice will stimulate and bring to the surface trapped feelings to be taken through the steps.

In which energetic center is feeling of trust, intimacy and connection? Is second center? I think you're talking about the Heart Center.

How can I find out where the energy centers are on the body described in your new book? There is a diagram in both books that show the physical locations.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: What is ego strength?

« on: February 18, 2022 »

Glad the job search is paying off. You seem to have the right ideas here.

Ego strength for me equates to strength of character: will-power, determination, the ability to make a goal and pursue it, being able to maintain personal values in the face of opposition, strong sense of identity and integrity, etc. If you have no ego strength, you are easily pushed around by others, you are weak-willed, a 'sheepie' as we might say in the terms of contemporary society.

Don't get confused by the subtleties of self-acceptance. For our work, it mainly applies to accepting feelings and emotions as they are. Extending acceptance to things like physical features and outside conditions is desirable, but can start to get tricky. Suppose you hate some physical feature about yourself. Hate is a feeling that should be taken through the process. If you try to force yourself to 'accept' something outside or about yourself that you honestly dislike you are being dishonest with yourself. I mention somewhere in the books that the best strategy is to always go to the core feelings. If there's hate or dislike, then you accept and process that, and don't try to force yourself into accepting or liking something that you don't.

But then accepting feelings and emotions as they are can carry over to conditions outside yourself or personal physical features. If you accept your feelings about something external, then in a way you are accepting the external while at the same time disliking or preferring that the external be different.  'When I combine my acceptance of my feelings with my acceptance of the fact that I may sometimes be judged harshly due to personal qualities and physical features.' This sounds good, and maybe illustrates the point I'm trying to make. Your primary acceptance of yourself carries over to secondary acceptance of the external experience.

Please don't forget that you can help me and others by posting a verified purchase review of DEEP CLEARING on Amazon.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Vipassana retreat and Emotional Clearing

« on: February 16, 2022 »

I don't see any problem at all and I think it would be an excellent opportunity to go deeper into yourself. My understanding of the Vipassana method is that it is based on witnessing body sensations that come up as you sit for extended periods in order to clear the samskaras. If emotions and feelings come up as well, which is to be expected, you can certainly include them in your witnessing meditation and take them through the EC steps. Maybe you or someone else will ask about what to do if strong feelings come up, but be aware that not everyone is enlightened about how to handle feelings and you may get a less than useful response from the group leader. EC work is advanced meditation. Not all spiritual leaders are up to speed on this, or may not want to introduce more than a beginner can handle, or they don't feel confident about getting into feelings. Go for it!

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Nicotine Withdrawal Process

« on: February 12, 2022 »

Sounds like you're doing great work. It does take time to work through all one's issues. The basic idea behind addictions work is that the addiction has served to keep negative feelings suppressed, so as you taper off on the addiction, feelings will come up to be cleared, and you shouldn't become discouraged. At the same time, as you develop a meditation practice where suppressed feelings are cleared, the need for the addiction (to keep the feelings suppressed) is bypassed, and it tends to fall away naturally. I hope some other people will share their experience along similar lines.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: exposure therapy and emotional clearing

« on: January 14, 2022 »

Ok! Here's a great way to completely fuck yourself up: Constantly compare yourself to a picture in your mind that you think you should be (your ideal spiritual brain-washed true-self hero image) and then beat yourself up because you will never come close to it. One of the principle components of EC psychology is self-acceptance. This idea does not appear to have hit you yet, and you seem to be in major unconscious self-rejection. The challenge in EC and authentic spiritual work is to be present with WHAT IS, not to be focused on the delusional idealized future. I suggest you go through the books again with this in mind and work on self-acceptance for a few months. You resolve your issues and grow organically and spontaneously into your higher self by surrendering to what is and by dedicating yourself to a long-term meditation - EC practice, clearing all those traumatic events one by one, without concerning yourself with how long it may take.

I have not studied Exposure Therapy and do not know if it is actually a formal school of psychology. However, EC work can be said to be a form of exposure therapy. You sit and visualize the triggering circumstances, and let the feelings come up, and then take them through the steps. You can also engage in physical confrontation to bring up the feelings, if it is an ongoing condition. However, simply exposing yourself to physical confrontation to bring up the feelings is not going to help much to clear those feelings from the subconscious if you simply shut down when the feelings come up, which is likely to happen if you are not ready with an effective strategy to handle the feelings. If Exposure Therapy does not include any such strategy aside from masochistic resignation, I would question the wisdom level of the program. If the exposure is too much, involuntary shut-down and repression will occur, which defeats the purpose or even compounds the problem as you point out. The beauty of EC work is that it gives you a method to integrate the feelings, whatever the context, inner or outer. I would say work mostly inwardly, and be careful with outer exposure, not over-doing it. You can try it after you have felt you have cleared some feelings using the EC process. Actually, I don't think it is even necessary if you have an ongoing meditation-processing practice. You could make a case that inner work is more effective because you are in a witnessing alpha state, able to devote complete attention to the feelings while taking them through the steps, although outer confrontation may have the advantage of generating stronger feelings than you can do in meditation.

Regarding employment, you are expected to be nervous when applying for a job. Nobody will hold that against you if you have talents, and everybody else including the people who interview you are just as tormented as you - that can be a helpful thought to keep in mind as you face them, similar to the cardboard cutout idea in the Emotional Clearing book. Don't worry so much about yourself and just go do it.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Clearing 30 Years of Repressed Emotions

« on: January 12, 2022 »

It's so nice to read such a well-expressed, objective appraisal of your circumstances. I think it would not be inaccurate to say that you are dealing with extreme, perhaps extraordinarily extreme, negativity. It may not be just the 30 years but since you have referred to "lifetimes" implying that other lifetimes are in the background, how many lifetimes "past" have contributed karmically to the present day experience? I'm only saying this to try to point out that this lifetime may be quite important and may be a turning point. It may be helpful to proceed on the assumption that karma is real, and that major negativity can be brought into this life to be resolved. Hopefully, this might promote patience, tolerance, and detachment (the key) from oppressive forces.

In practical terms, the shaking is nothing to be concerned about. Any reasonable spontaneous body movement during emotional release work in general is allowed and even encouraged, and I have seen this often in clients. I would take it as a sign that you are doing effective work. I especially like that you are breathing into chakras, and have identified the core feeling of heart-based loneliness, with its accompanying first-level emotion of shame, which has driven you into the addictive acting-out. On the other hand, anything can be taken to an undesirable extreme, referring to the body shaking. The energy going up the spine could be construed as kundalini movement, and this can be both good or premature, in which case it can be harmful. Just take it easy and make sure you are not pushing too hard with the work. Maintain balance. If you are having intense sessions, maybe do just one or two a week. Be careful with the kundalini and keep it under control. Maintaining a slow smooth breath with no pausing between in and out can help calm down violent inner energetics.

On the feelings lingering, make sure you are ending the session carefully according to the steps. Close the door to the subconscious, ground down, seal the aura again, etc.

The sexual issue is critical. I agree that it can be the effect of the other heart-based feelings -  and that's a nice insight - but also it can have either developed into, or can actually be a core karmic issue in itself. This would pertain to the third, or second chakra, in the 10 chakra system I use. So go into that chakra, focus there, feel it, breathe into it, process the feelings there. The excess activity and then the inability to express sexually are both indications of blockage in the lower chakra(s).

I would recommend that you find someone to work with. The energetic blockage in the lower (and heart) chakras will respond to energetic therapy. There are many types of healers: EC Facilitators work energetically, even at a distance, and direct energy into the chakras to free them up. Other energy healers can also be used: Reiki, shamen, crystal healing, energy healers in general, but I probably would not recommend EFT. The object is to direct strong positive pranic healing energy into the chakras, and to give you more of an energetic boost than you can provide for yourself. This unblocks and releases the negativity into awareness so it can then be processed with the EC steps. In addition, you can gently incorporate yoga contractions (mulabanda) on the perineum to work from the physical to free up the energy in sexual chakras. I talk about this in Deep Clearing with regard to a sexual addiction case. Also a meditative yoga practice in general if you are not doing it now can be healing and smooth out the body shaking.

Last, and I don't want to alarm you, but don't want to hold back anything either: Your case strongly suggests the possibility of entity attachment. I am no longer seeing clients, but in my last 8 years or so of practicing, after I became aware of this phenomenon, I included working on this level with about 20% of my clients, and found it very helpful. The entities take hold on the psychic level and it can sometimes be hard to dislodge them, but it can be done. Refer to my article on Spirit Releasement on the emclear website in the Emotions section. There are two ways to approach this: continue to work energetically and with emotional processing and assume they will drop off as negative feelings as cleared, which often happens; or if things don't seem to improve, try to release them directly with the help of a spirit releasement specialist, which you'll have to search for, and which would be my choice. The spirit attachment condition is actually common and should not induce fear or panic.

So, hang in there. I know the system works. Try these suggestions and assume you are undergoing a major life redirection.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Guided Meditation

« on: January 05, 2022 »

There's the Emotional Clearing Guided Training, which I would recommend.

https://www.emclear.com/training.html

Sessions are always subjective and you don't have to be too rigorous in following the steps, but on the other hand, you do want to be aware of the basic theory behind the process. You should definitely be reading Deep Clearing or Emotional Clearing if you plan on getting into serious work on yourself.

It sounds like you did it right. The important thing is to be focused on the feeling, and to take it through the steps. It's ok whatever imagery comes up.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Pain and openess

« on: December 19, 2021 »

You’re doing very well in understanding the psycho-dynamics. I agree that the abandonment was brought with you into this life and has manifested with your husband and now your son. Also, it's excellent that you are aware that you tend towards an addictive relationship with your son. You project your feelings of abandonment on him, and then become attached / addicted to him in order to resolve the feelings. This is the first step of becoming aware of your deeper feelings and then taking responsibility for them.

After you have a good day of creating art, next day you rebound into the negative. This happens because most of us are still operating on an emotional dualistic level. Our good feelings tend to get balanced by the negative, and if we are deluded into thinking that all we need to do is totally immerse ourselves in any practice that seems to lift us up, and if we become addicted to that practice, we tend to strongly create the negative rebound experience. The way out is to make sure you're not escaping into the art, or using it to suppress the negative, and then just welcome the negative as part of the total experience. As you process both sides, you transcend, which is the goal. I talk about this more in my book 'Emotion and Art.'

Yes, the left side of the body corresponds to the right brain.

Not sure what you mean by 'pain and openness.' Maybe I already answered that.

As you work on yourself, you affect everyone who is close to you. There is usually an unconscious dependant energetic alignment between people that maintains any relationship. As you heal yourself, the other person is no longer able to perceive you the same way, and their attitude towards you is forced to change as well. But this doesn’t mean the other person is necessarily healed. Suppose your son has an unconscious tendency to be attached to you for some psychological reason we don't have to speculate about for now. If you no longer are available for him on a dependant psychic level, because you have transcended your addictive tendency, he may just find someone else to take your place, like a girlfriend for instance.

I think you are on the mark with the core feelings. Abandonment in the heart is the core feeling. The anger, fear, and shame are important as well, but we refer to them as first-level feelings. They need to be processed, but the abandonment is the core that is most important. When the abandonment is released, the others will naturally subside as well.

You're doing great work!

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: How often to do a session

« on: December 19, 2021 »

Probably no more than 2 sessions per day would be best. I think you are probably correct in thinking you have a karmic tie with your son. Remember, you are not supposed to be accepting the situation; it's only your feelings that you apply acceptance to and take responsibility for. It's ok to speak with your son about the issue, but if you are coming from blame, and haven't yet taken full responsibility for your feelings, speaking with him will tend to work against you. When you process, bring acceptance to and take responsibility for the feelings and try to drop blame about your son. You can speak to him when you feel calm enough to talk without blame or vindictiveness. Just try to explain how his behavior is unacceptable. But if you were to successfully process and release the feelings, you might not find it necessary to speak to him at all. This doesn't happen overnight, however, so the risk is that in speaking to him, you will still be coming from blame.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Breathing count

« on: December 19, 2021 »

Don't know what breath count you are referring to. Usually, I recommend 4 beats in and 4 out, and for advanced 4 in and 8 out with each count about the same as a heartbeat. If that's too fast, no problem, you can slow down to whatever feels best for you. Slower is actually better.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: What to do when things all turn to crap?

« on: October 26, 2021 »

Actually, there's not too much I can say about a healing crisis. It's theoretical, and I don’t believe it came up much when I was working with clients. In a way, it's a left-brain notion, and the important thing is to keep on with processing your experience, however it may be caused. It is possible as we get into the work that suppressed negativity will be stirred up and it may seem as if things are getting worse for the moment, possibly leading towards what can be called the healing crisis, but your strategy will still be to devote yourself to the work, as you describe.

What comes to mind is that it's possible that when things were going well you became too attached to the success, and so there's the rebound of the negative which was formed at the same time as the positive feelings of success, in order to balance them, but got pushed into the subconscious, now emerging and bringing with it the negative experience, according to the rules of duality that I discuss in the books. This might be suggesting a kind of compulsivity and dependence on success, or any other 'positive' experience. If so, what's the core negative feeling behind it? Probably something like not being good enough or security-survival concerns.

If you are dependent upon financial success to make you feel secure, you will inevitably bounce back into the feelings of insecurity. The way out is to keep processing those feelings of insecurity and trust that the process will eventually bring you to a place of balance and non-dependence, but I know it can be difficult.

From another point of view, we can say that life has its ups and downs, and that we need to expect such changes, especially now with the dramatic world events unfolding. But if we have a severe emotional response to any of the outward happenings, it indicates a subconscious holding of the corresponding negative feelings. The optimal mindset for contending with these challenges is then to maintain the neutral sense of acceptance of the feelings that come up during difficult times, and even to welcome those times as necessary from a spiritual standpoint for us to be able to access the negativity within and ultimately clear it.

Remember the basic Buddhist teaching: 'Neither be attached to the positive nor seek to avoid the negative.' Attachment is revealed to us when we have severe emotional reactions whenever outward supports are removed. Processing the pain of the loss enables us to move beyond the attachment-aversion syndrome. After processing the pain, the next step is to shift our sense of identity and reliance upon outward conditions to an inner sense of self that transcends the need for dependent attachments, whether they are based on financial, relationship, prestige needs, or any of the chakra feeling centers. This inner sense of self can be cultivated by activating the witnessing principle that I discuss in the books.

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: Emotional / mental Contamination

« on: August 23, 2021 »

Interesting post. In ECP psychology, when starting to look at any discordant issue, we assume there is some level of projection occurring. This means unconscious negativity stored on the inside is being overlaid on outside objects, people, or situations, even attracting them. Our assumption here is that inner negativity is being projected onto your perception and experience of the car. The car may objectively not be esthetically right for you, but you add to the disharmony with your projection. The key here is to take it to a feeling level. Your initial first-level emotional response to the car is dislike or disgust. What is the core feeling behind that that? That's for you to find out by entering the alpha state and processing the experience, as I describe in detail in my books. As you sit with the experience, eventually the core feelings will come forward, to be taken through the process.