View the outside as the stimulus to the feelings that need to be brought into view, in order to clear. Then you start to see the outside from a different perspective - its actually helping you move towards your goal of releasing the negative subconscious. With this understanding, you make the choice whether to try to change the outside or use it to further your growth. If you try to change too fast, you are running from the aspect of yourself that the external reveals, and the external conditions will reappear, no matter how hard you try to avoid them. However, there may be times when you have had enough of processing the negative and it may be good to make a change. But usually we can tolerate more than we think, and using the process will enable you to break through situations that appear to be too much. The best is when you process without trying to avoid the negative external, and then it changes spontaneously as a result of your inner processing.
