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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / followup on "in the weeds"

« on: August 28, 2023 »

Hello,

Last night I realized what had happened before I posted "in the weeds." A week or so ago I wrote an eight-verse poem about being "in the weeds." To submit it to this Forum, I converted it into a purely prosaic, artless version of the same subject.

I see, now, very clearly, that in that poem I had focused solely on the concept of duality, and I wrongly subconsciously thought that by doing that, I could avoid dealing with my feelings about the topic. In other words, I had completely compartmentalized emotions and duality, which won't work in the long run.

Thanks for the opportunity to clarify!

Jocelyn

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: in the weeds

« on: August 26, 2023 »

Points well taken.

Thank you.

Jocelyn

P.S: More than likely, working with my feelings directly is all I need to do!

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / in the weeds

« on: August 24, 2023 »

John,

I would not be on this field trip 'in the weeds' right now were it not for the possibility of World War III. I'm against being killed that or any other similar  way.  Can ACCEPTING violent kinds of death without resistance HELP release me from the "curse" of desires to move toward The Light and the Light alone?

Painful as that kind of death might be, could I relate to it as I would toward any other event--knowing the "pendulum" (of experience) has swung away from The Light and that I can look forward to its perpetual return AND release?

Can bad Karma come just from an addiction to the need to hold EXCLUSIVELY on to The Light?

It's said Higher Self can endure whatever life experiences we have--"It's 'all good.'" If my feeling that "it's all good" is healthy, it's also good if I have not yet grasped that.

Jocelyn

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / Re: followup on Mr-Patrick's posts

« on: August 10, 2023 »

I appreciate your response.

Interestingly, right after I left posting at the library, that same basic answer to my post came to me.

Must have been having a "senior moment."

Jocelyn

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THE EMOTIONAL CLEARING PROCESS / followup on Mr-Patrick's posts

« on: August 09, 2023 »

Hello,

My childhood was, it seems, similar to Mr-Patrick's, as nearly as I can tell. EC has allowed me to "stabilize" [for the better, not the worse] the "relationship" I've had with one certain essential(?!?) individual human being who is a narcissistic bully. I, however, have yet to feel, accept, and integrate the entire extent of the feelings I've felt over a lifetime resulting from my "upbringing."

What I'd like to know, is, if I succeed in processing the rest of the negative parts of my childhood in its entirety, will I automatically and intuitively know exactly how to create a fully win-win "partnership" with the bully that's still in my life and who's not likely to leave "the scene" anytime soon?

In other words, I realize that processing one's emotions can greatly alter relationships for the better, but after a lifetime of living with few boundaries, will the person now freed from the tyranny of the narcissistic bully automatically become an expert on how to build a win-win relationship with a dyed-in-the-wool bully?

Dr. Albert Bernstein has written a perceptive handbook called "Emotional Vampires" (with a subtitle momentarily forgotten; it's about dealing with people who drain others emotionally dry.) His opinion is that narcissistic bullies cannot be cured. Their victims must break off contact as much as possible, and even end the relationship.