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When dualism is integrated, life becomes whole, or “holistic.” We become free from duality, the trap of pleasure and pain. We transcend, no longer frantically clinging to the positive and fearfully trying to avoid the negative. We find ourselves with a new awareness and freedom; we have grown; happiness is unconditional.

Integration does not mean that the negative side of any dualistic experience is eliminated, but that our perception of the negative changes so it is no longer disturbing. Life is still encountered in terms of dualities, but in a noncompulsive manner – a natural holistic ebb and flow. Just as day and night, hot and cold are not regarded as problems, the poles of feeling are experienced as nonproblematical. We use the “negative” productively. This is the goal of processing and other growth therapies.

A good example of one of the basic dualities that most of us need to work on is relationships: Unintegrated, we experience the poles of isolation/dependency; integrated, we enjoy autonomy/relatedness. Unintegrated, we fear being alone. Lonely and anxious, we seek to escape from the isolation through relationship. We are driven by the fear of being alone and depend on the other to eliminate our loneliness. We become addicted to the other. If the other is lost, we experience and exhibit symptoms that would be present in withdrawal from any addiction. When integrated, we enjoy our aloneness. We become creative when alone, recharging our energies, and even look forward to being alone. We then are able to relate to others nondependently, which makes our company even more pleasant.

Each aspect of life may be broken down and understood in terms of its dualistic complements. The integration of dualistic experience becomes an art in itself.

 
 

© 2004 John Ruskan / The Institute for Integrative Processing