from John Ruskan-
I know you want to find a way to improve yourself and your life. You want to make the most out of this short time we have on the earth. You want to evolve. You want to be happy. You want to go beyond struggle.
Many times, we think we need to attain some outer goal before we can be happy. We think that if we only had that perfect relationship with our spouse, lover, co-workers, or children, we'd be happy. Or if we only had that better job, more money, more recognition, more sex, more possessions, more accomplishments, and so on. You may even engage in strenuous visualization practices to try to bring those things into your life.
The real secret is that you don't need any of these things to be happy.
You just need to release the negative feelings inside that you think the external things will make better.
You can work on these feelings directly to achieve lasting relief and UNCONDITIONAL HAPPINESS.
'Unconditional' means that your happiness is not based on external conditions, but comes from the inside, independent of the external.
But the amazing thing is that as you start to release negative feelings by going inside and working with them, you also start to release the BLOCKING that has been preventing you from achieving outer goals!
You find yourself more easily achieving outer goals, as if they are just being brought to you, and at the same time you become less compulsive about attaining the outer goals.